CONFIDENCE

Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind. – Dr. Seuss

Confidence is something a lot of us girls struggle with especially the girls that are still in school and college because we are constantly comparing ourselves to other girls and constantly girls try to tear each other down and constantly girls picking out each other’s imperfections and things like that. We all feel that we are not pretty or we don’t feel beautiful or good about ourselves and I totally know how you feel, I have been through that many times where I wake up in the morning (and I think a lot of us are guilty of that) and we constantly start picking out things that we don’t like about ourselves like “oh! I hate my nose”, “oh! I hate my teeth”, “oh! I hate my hair” and all that stuff. And I know that a lot of girls do this stuff to each other as well. A lot of people have been doing that to me. And a lot of us struggle with that. And we kind of let those things get to us.

 So the biggest thing for me that conquers all those mean rude comments and those rude words that people say about me is CONFIDENCE. And it is something every girl should have. A lot of us look to other people for confidence. Like I’m sure we’re all guilty of, you know being with our friends and saying, “Ugh! I’m so fat” just so they’ll say “Oh no! You’re so skinny. How can you say that?” You know, stuff like that that we pick out the things we don’t like just so that other people can assure us that we are beautiful and pretty. I know a lot of us do that. I have done that before. And you just can’t do that when it comes to confidence. Confidence is believing that you are beautiful, being able to walk out of the house with no makeup on and your hair a mess and still being confident and comfortable in your own skin. For a lot of us, it’s hard to build up that confidence. But it just takes time. You have to believe that you are beautiful. And all those things that people say about you just let them go. It’s not worth spending your time over. And honestly, I don’t think it’s anyone’s place to judge other people cause none of us are perfect. We all have imperfections. Even the celebrities and people on the covers of magazines, they have imperfections too. So it’s really nobody’s place to judge other people. But even though it’s not those girls place to say things about you, it’s not going change that they are still doing it. So you just have to realize that that’s their problem, like if they have a problem with me, that’s OK. Because I Love Myself and I am believe I am Beautiful so it doesn’t matter what anybody else thinks of me. So you can’t really rely on what other people think about you or say about you because you know there’s not always going to be someone to tell you that you are pretty. You have to have that assurance in yourself and not care what other people think. You kind of have to block everybody out when it comes to what they think about you. Even if its nice things, even if someone says “Oh you are so pretty”  I’m like “Thank you” but I don’t really let it get to my head like “Oh! I am so PRETTY!!”  You can’t let anybody’s opinion about you affect what you think about yourself.

 Even if you are in public one day and you fall flat at your face, you have to be able to laugh at yourself because it doesn’t matter what anyone around you is thinking like “Oh my god this person is a total dork.” Just laugh at yourself and be confident and  I think, especially, confidence is something a lot of people are "attracted" to. And you know it’s not good to be super conceded like “Oh I am so BEAUTIFUL.”  Still be humble about it like you are beautiful and pretty and unique in your own way but that does not make you better than other people. Not only does beauty come from the outside appearance, beauty also comes from the inside.  Like honestly there can be someone who is drop dead gorgeous with designer this and designer that and if they have a super mean attitude, that can automatically make them ugly. So just be the better person in any situation. Just really try not to get it to your head like if someone’s picking at you and telling you all your imperfections and trying to make you feel bad, just don’t worry about it. It’s kind of hard at first because you kind of want to lash back at them and tell them all their imperfections but you can’t. because that can instantly make you an ugly person.

Many people say that it’s funny how I talk about confidence when I love makeup and it seems conceded and superficial. But I honestly think makeup is just an obsession for me. And even if we somehow connect these two, lets put it this way- it's kind of just a little dose of confidence. But I don’t really rely on makeup to make me feel completely beautiful. I can walk out of the house without make up and sometimes I think, “Ugh! Look at my face” but I still do it because I just don’t care what other people think. Everybody has unique features and things that make them different from other people. And if you have certain features that make you different from others, enhance them. And that’s what makes you YOU! And even if you have to have little reminders to make you remember you are beautiful, you can put up little sticky notes on your mirror that says “Smile! You’re beautiful” or “Be confident!” or other stuff that will remind you that in need to walk out of my house with my head held high, my shoulders back and being confident. And even if you are feeling really bad one day, like if you feel so ugly and so down, if you are going through a situation in life where you just don’t feel good, just smile. Even if you are feeling bad on the inside, just smile and keep your head held high and that smile could turn into something you don’t even have to force, before you know it.

All you need to remember is

Growing Up

Ok! So life does give surprises in its own special ways. We may not be able to find them out initially, but eventually we realize that it was exactly what we have been wanting all along.  We are a bit too engrossed in our own silly lives to look beyond it. Which I feel is a little unfair to us. I mean it is something meant for us and we keep ignoring it just because we are too engrossed in searching for something that actually never exists. Too complicated, right?

But anyways, I’m just going through an awesome phase of my life. And I am so in love with it. Some “Euphoric” kinds, which actually led me to think what actually was I upto all these years?? Not that I have some kind of regrets or something. NO!! Those were indeed few of the best moments of my life. For, they were exactly how I always wanted them to be. But then all started going wrong. Happens and with everyone. So why would I be an exception? But now I feel it was all a part of growing up. A very important part in fact! A part that taught me that life is no cakewalk and all does not happen as we want it to be. We might want our life to be a fairytale, but we forget that even in fairytales, the “happily ever after” only appear after the princess has gone through a lot of ups and downs. So if the fairy tales princesses are not spared of these obstacles, we are still humans! All I lacked was a little maturity (not that I have fully acquired that now). But yes, I do feel I have grown up a little psychologically, mentally and intellectually. FINALLY!!

We might have had a very beautiful yesterday. The kinds we always wanted. But many a times, it doesn’t last. But that is no excuse not to enjoy our today and tomorrow, which you never know might be even more beautiful. All we need is a little push to come out of our cocoon and realize that life indeed is very beautiful and we can only see its real beauty by moving on, which is very easy to say and very very difficult to implement. But with time all goes well. And finally all the memories begin to make us smile rather than cry. Once this begins to happen, nothing can stop you from enjoying your today. So 

This life is what you make it...

"This life is what you make it. Not matter what, you're going to mess up sometimes, it's a universal truth. But the good part is you get to decide how you're going to mess it up. Girls will be your friends - they'll act like it anyway. But just remember, some come, somg go. The ones that stay with you through everything - they're your true best friends. Don't let go of them. Also remember, sisters make the best friends in the world. As for lovers, well, they'll come and go too. And babe, I hate to say it, most of them - actually pretty much all of them are going to break your heart, but you can't give up becuase if you give up, you'll never find your soul mate. You'll never find that half who makes you whole and that goes for everything. Just because you fail once, doesn't mean you're gonna fail at everything. Keep trying, hold on, and always, always, always believe in yourself, because if you don't, then who will, sweetie? So keep your head high, keep your chin up, and most importantly, keep smiling, because life's a beautiful thing and there's so much to smile about.”

Everything happens for a REASON!

Who doesn't have issues in life ?

We all come across a point when all we can say is, "I give up"

Things happen which totally baffle us.

We have no idea where life is taking us.

Most unwanted and unexpected things happen at the most inappropriate times.

When you feel, this is it..nothing can get worse.. a new issue pops up !

As aptly said by someone,"wow ! Like the one's which existed weren't enough !"

And in the end, all we are left to do is... wonder why... OH WHY is all this ever even happening...

And this usually happens when we are all set to forget the bad things and ready to live a new happy life!

This is normal right ? Happens to each one of us?

I am no exception to this.

Even though normalcy has never been in power with me, well in this one aspect, I honestly have been no exception.

But at the end of it, all I'd say is

Someday everything will make perfect sense...

So when things mess up...

And all you wish to do is GIVE UP ....

DON'T !

Just laugh at the confusion...

Smile through the tears...

And keep reminding yourself...

I Owe My Mother

I found this on the Internet and loved it. Wanted to share :) 

1. My mother taught me TO APPRECIATE A JOB WELL DONE. 
"If you're going to kill each other, do it outside. I just finished cleaning." 

2. My mother taught me RELIGION. 
"You better pray that will come out of the carpet." 

3. My mother taught me about TIME TRAVEL. 
"If you don't straighten up, I'm going to knock you into the middle of next week!" 

4. My mother taught me LOGIC. 
" Because I said so, that's why." 

5. My mother taught me MORE LOGIC. 
"If you fall out of that swing and break your neck, you're not going to the store with me." 

6. My mother taught me FORESIGHT. 
"Make sure you wear clean underwear, in case you're in an accident." 

7. My mother taught me IRONY 
"Keep crying, and I'll give you something to cry about." 

8. My mother taught me about the science of OSMOSIS. 
"Shut your mouth and eat your supper." 

9. My mother taught me about CONTORTIONISM. 
"Will you look at that dirt on the back of your neck!" 

10. My mother taught me about STAMINA. 
"You'll sit there until all that spinach is gone." 

11. My mother taught me about WEATHER. 
"This room of yours looks as if a tornado went through it." 

12. My mother taught me about HYPOCRISY. 
"If I told you once, I've told you a million times. Don't exaggerate!" 

13. My mother taught me the CIRCLE OF LIFE. 
"I brought you into this world, and I can take you out." 

14. My mother taught me about BEHAVIOR MODIFICATION. 
"Stop acting like your father!" 

15. My mother taught me about ENVY. 
"There are millions of less fortunate children in this world who don't have wonderful parents like you do." 

16. My mother taught me about ANTICIPATION. 
"Just wait until we get home." 

17. My mother taught me about RECEIVING. 
"You are going to get it when you get home!" 

18. My mother taught me MEDICAL SCIENCE. 
"If you don't stop crossing your eyes, they are going to freeze that way." 

19. My mother taught me ESP. 
"Put your sweater on; don't you think I know when you are cold?" 

20. My mother taught me HUMOR. 
"When that lawn mower cuts off your toes, don't come running to me." 

21. My mother taught me HOW TO BECOME AN ADULT. 
"If you don't eat your vegetables, you'll never grow up." 

22. My mother taught me GENETICS. 
"You're just like your father." 

23. My mother taught me about my ROOTS. 
"Shut that door behind you. Do you think you were born in a barn?" 

24. My mother taught me WISDOM. 
"When you get to be my age, you'll understand." 

25. And my favorite: My mother taught me about JUSTICE. 
"One day you'll have kids, and I hope they turn out just like you!"

its all about *ME* DEAL WITH IT!

Tits and bits about myself ! care enough to read ? oh wait .. ! Does anyone ever read my blog ?
"its okay, I write because I love to write, whether or not anybody cares to give it a reading or not! 
So getting back to random things about me.. Trust me I feel too random..!
Someone just said to me today, " Girl, you have a MAJOR randomness streak going on right now" (to which I told her it was kind of permanent :P)
I deviate from the topic a bit too easily, eh ?.. Yea okay, I will work on that ! *sigh*
 Okay so..
Umm.. Hi !


*I'm the eldest child in the family and I have a love/hate feeling about being one ! Don't even get me started on this.. Just save yourself a lot of confusion !


*I think babies like me. They miraculously shut up when in my arms and the one's who don't.. Hah.. I have my puppy face to show them and they find it quite interesting ! And I LOOOOVVVEEE babies <3<3


*I love, abso-freaking-lutely LOVE to read ! I prefer to shut up and not give anymore explanations on this either !


*I don't forgive easily. But I don't hold grudges either. I'm Switzerland in such situations. And it takes me a lot of time to share the same bond as before with the person who's done wrongly to me.


*I love all the little things in the world. All the little one's which we all take for granted. All the little things that make my day, like a good cup of coffee to start my day with, a smiling good morning wish.


*I love eating! Especially all the junk in the world like all the time. And then one thing I keep worrying about is my "weight". Ha!! Why do need to eat it in the first place and then hit the gym to shed all the fat. Crazy me!! 


*Yes, I'm a typical girl and even a tiniest compliment from any random person keeps me glowing all day.


*I love romance movies. I just plunge into them. And I love all the girly-wirly movies.


*I believe its the biggest disappointment, yet an equally big relief, that at the end of the day, we're all humans. So when I make mistakes, I rather correct them then and there and get over them than let people make me feel miserable.


*I'm shy at the beginning. Too shy.  And once people know me, they wish I was like I was in the beginning! Coz I'm a complete chatterbox and an extrovert:p


*I hate self pity. I hate it. I hate it. I hate it.


*I am a language freak. I cannot speak to a person for more than a minute who uses phrases like "you fraaaandship with me ?, or Fankzu" bla bla...


*I'm not as strong as my smile seems to be or to the extent people think i am. And yes, there are nights when i cry to sleep.

*I can cry while i'm laughing too loud and I can laugh while i'm crying.(I just need the right person to make the latter happen)


*Nostalgia scares me. It makes me think about the magical times I've lived and the magical people without whom I couldn't imagine life who are now going away from me.


*I hate to depend upon someone. Be that for what-so-ever reason. Nothing better than doing things your way!

*I'm a Capricorn girl.  And a true one I think.  Really. I don't believe in horoscopes though. But these zodiac traits do make sense a lot of times.


*I can eat a lot in one go. And I can eat a lot. My mum keeps calling me a squirrel who keeps nibblingall the time! Like what has a squirrel got to do with all this ? Random comparisons, you know. Oh okay.. Now I know where I get all my randomness genes from..:P


*I fall in love too hard too fast... <3<3 Then take time to move on. But then, I finally realize its time to move on... and then life changes for good!

*I trust a bit too easily. I care a bit too much. And I love a bit too unconditionally. Can't help it.

Memory Files

It is almost summer  time. The chill in the air is enjoyable; it’s the kind that makes you want to go out and enjoy the red nose and numb ears for one last time since its probably the last winter rains that are pouring down. The raindrops trickle down my window sill, the soft breeze blows and sometimes bring a few raindrops which fall on my face, waking me up from my day dreams... I’m listening to the soft romantic song with earphones in my ears and volume totally up!

Its a nice feeling. The whole situation seems to takes you to all the good old days.

-The family days, when all the family members cuddle in one quilt with a packet of groundnuts in the centre, eating, chatting and laughing away... Or in a balcony with pakodas and cups of hot tea and coffee.    

-The school days when we couldn’t go out for games and our seniors used to come in our classes, make us stay quiet and punish us if we didn’t listen to them. And later, we doing the same when we were the senior most the responsibilities were put on our shoulders. 

-The trekking days when we used to sit inside our tents and we could hear the tip-tap drops falling on our tent . We would go on gossiping about every possible thing in the world. Discussing about all the ghost stories and getting scared to death at night and then switching on the torch and sleeping. Hahaha...!!    

-The college days when we always asked teachers not teach us because it was so beautiful and after the teacher used to agree after like a hundred pleads, run to to canteen and order hot coffee and maggi and nag about the fact that we should have been at the lake at this moment or maybe at kasauli.

-The mushy-mushy days when you and your bffs sat in a coffee shop, eating hot Chocolate Fantasy (yes I’m talking about Cafe Coffee Day), talking about almost everything... and nothing at times yet saying everything on mind.

I could go on and on with such beautiful memories... They were lying somewhere at the back of my mind. The rains just brought them back. And as they say, “We do not remember days; we remember moments.” Lets create more moments because life is indeed beautiful. VERY BEAUTIFUL!