Realists v/s Dreamers

So there are so many kinds of people in the world. Lazy, smart, educated, intellectual, confident, over-confident and I could go on and on. Each one has its own view point on various things, have their own theories, and no one can as such challenge them on anything. After all, it’s their life. Only they know what they have gone through or are still going through. And I strongly believe that “only you know the best way to live your life.”

Out of the so many kinds of categories of people, two specific categories particularly amuse me- “The Realists” and “The Dreamers”. I, without a doubt, belong to the latter group of people.

Ok, So talking about “The Realists”. As obvious from the name, they are the ones who believe in what reality actually is and then work their way according to the situations. They believe in what they see. And, why not? Whatever you see with your eyes, has to be true, until and unless you are watching some kind of magic show or something like that. Such people follow a simple theory “You get what you work for.”  For them it is either black or white. The grey does not exist for them. Strength, will power, guts are few of the words they like to keep on their fingertips. They say that without strength, you can’t get through your life, to get to the love and happiness etc. (which, by the way is true to quite some extent.) and this word always gets them through the hard times in life.

Now, “The Dreamers” on the other hand, are the ones who work through their dreams, as is pretty perceptible from the name itself. If they want to get something, more than actually working towards it, they work towards their belief that they will get it no matter what! And many a times, it has been seen that if you really believe in something, your belief does turn out to be true sooner or later. Dream, believe, faith are the few of the words, these people live by. For them, your belief stands equal to the hard work you do. If you do something, in which you do not believe, you are never going to like doing it and chances are that you might not even achieve it (pretty much true again!). Even in "The Alchemist", the author says "When you really want something, the whole universe conspires in helping you to achieve it". The Alchemist is a story all about a boy who believes in his dreams and in the end gets all that he wants.

I am the biggest DREAMER/DAY-DREAMER you will ever meet (or at least I claim to be). All that I have achieved till date, more than actually working towards it, I have actually dreamed my way through it. I literally mean it! And I thing I am sure of, even if I had worked hard, put in all my strength, I would have been at the same place where I am today, because that is exactly where I am destined to be! I have been dreaming all my life, and, touch wood; I have seen my dreams coming true. Yay J I, feel so happy and privileged to be a part of this clique.  

So who stand strong in life- “The Realists” or “The Dreamers”?  Can we really answer that? No. its just that they both have a different way of living their life and it is not that they acquire any of these two qualities living their life. They are born as one of them. They both pave their way to success. So we can’t really decide on who’s better and who’s not. We just have to remember that whatever comes in life, we have to face it with dignity and not behave like losers. Life is all about living and enjoying it, be it the dreamer way or the realist way. 

CHANGE- growing up or what?

“It is funny how day by day, nothing changes. But when you look back, everything is different.” 

Change, ironically, is the only thing permanent in life. We are all changing everyday without even realizing it. One thing that really starts to bother people is when say “Oh my gosh! You have changed so much.” Now this can be said in two tones- positive and negative. Its fine when people say that to you in a positive way, because that means they are proud of and are happy for you. But I don’t understand when people say it with so much of negativity. I mean, shouldn’t change be encouraging? Like growing as human beings? And what I personally feel is that the word “change” has a very bad stigma to it. People are very scared of it when it should be pretty much the opposite. Accept whatever changes that come your way, with open arms. It will all the more make you a better person.

Let me tell you, from my personal experience, that when some one says to you that you have changed so much in a very negative tone, that simply means “you are now out of my control, I can’t manipulate you, you are now doing things that very spontaneous to me. And I do not like it at all and so I am saying all this out of jealousy and to hurt you.”  It could be as simple as simple as they  can say “you are spending more time with the kind of people I don’t like. You have the kind of friends I wouldn’t ever make. You’re so different.” When the only person you have to go back to at the end of the day, when you are snuggling in your bed is yourself. So just know that whatever situation, whatever decision you make in your life, it is going to be on your shoulder. And if you are fine with it, don’t let anyone’s comments and statements bother you. Rather, just hit them back with “Oh is it? Wow! That is so cool. I really like it now. What is the problem in that?”

You are your best friend. You might have a friend who is very close to yourself. Someone with whom you have grew up and shared all your secrets with. But things could happen later in life, down the road. You need to be comfortable with yourself and need to be able to report to yourself. If you make a decision that everybody thinks is wrong, but if you think its right deep down, and you can live with its consequences, then just go for it.

People really love to go deep down in others life and see what they are doing. They will be just be jealous of you or sad that they do not have the control over you anymore. And all these feelings will turn into hatred, even before you know it. They will despise you. And that is when you literally have to step back and you need to question yourself, “why is this person jealous of me?” Is this because I am not in your control anymore? I am making my own decisions without consulting you? I am doing things without even letting you know what I am doing. Some one really needs to go and tell these people that CHANGE is a good thing. If you are not changing, you are not growing.

My Dream Little Secret #4

When I was a child, probably in class 7 or class 8, there used to be this cartoon series, “Heidi”, that used to telecast 5 days a week at 8 pm. I and my brother used to watch it religiously and never missed a single episode. And when it ended, I remember being really very sad for it. Besides enjoying the story, what I enjoyed most was the house in which Heidi lived with her grandfather, a small cottage in the Alps, surrounded by mountains all around- green and snow-capped. Ever since, I have dreamt of owning my own cottage in the midst of Mother Nature.  Then, in vacations, my family used to plan a trip to Himachal Pradesh almost every summer. When I saw such cottages in real, my dream grew even more strong.

Every year, our school used to take us to the trekking and hiking. In class 11, we went to Brighu Lake (4,235 m above the sea level). It is one of my most memorable trek/trip of my life. I actually lived the kind of life I wanted, even if it was for a few days. The only difference being that instead of a cottage, we used to sleep in tents. It was a lifetime experience for me. Waking up every morning to the chirping of birds, clean air, green and white mountains all around, bonfire at night, brushing teeth and washing utensils with the chilled stream water, cozying up in our sleeping bags and so much more is something I can never forget. I remember the day were to leave for our destination, Brighu Lake, we woke up at 3 in the morning and we literally saw the entire Milky Way. The feeling was and still is beyond words and by far my best feeling.

I just wish to own my very own cottage on the mountains so that I never have to crave for that feeling. I can go there and experience them whenever I can. (And yes, the hotel or rented cottage would not serve my purpose.)

My Dream Little Secret #3

♥♥ I love fashion. And i am a 'Fashion Baby’ (if that makes any sense.) Being a huge fan of movies like The Devil Wears Prada and Sex and the city, it should not be difficult to guess my taste. In The Devil Wears Prada, the scene in which Andrea goes into the Runway’s fashion walk-in closet, OH-MY-GOD! She was awestruck, and so was I. How wonderful it would be to actually own a closet like that, filled with all the latest shoes, dresses, bags, accessories,  jewellery etc. and Brands ranging from Chanel, Gucci, Louis Vuitton, Guess, Jimmy Choo and all the big brands WOW!!! And for all of those who have seen Sex and The City, the closet that Big gets made for Carrie. I would never ask my partner anything else if he gifts me something like that.(Not to be taken seriously ;))

A little time ago, there was this ad where a girl flaunts this walk-in closet in their new home, whereas the guys flaunts his bar. The point is that every girls would love to own it one day. If I ever own a closet like that, it will be my most prized possession. And the icing on the cake would be a ‘PINK’ walk-in closet. ♥♥

My Dream Little Secret #2

Paris, they say is the city of love & romance. How I would love to live in this city of love sometime in my life even if for just a few days. It would be so wonderful, to wake up each morning and realizing that you are surrounded by love all around. This realization itself would add so much happiness to your life. For, I believe that love is the greatest of all emotions in our lives, which is not restricted to just love between a boyfriend-girlfriend. It can be love between mother-daughter, son-father, siblings, friends, husband-wife, aunt-nephew etc. basically, love in any form. You get my point, right? And how much I would I like to get kissed under the Eifel Tower, and I would cherish that moment forever in my life. 

My Dream Little Secret #1

It has always been a dream of mine to have a hidden room bursting with books from floor to ceiling. So many books that they barely fit, so that they have to be stacked haphazardly all over the place. In this room I imagine there to be one large super comfy chair and a crackling fire. The room would be mine and mine only… It would be my little secret.